There is one truth however, that will help ANY parenting method succeed....and that is consistency. Your parenting methods will fail if you keep switching them around every other day and don't follow through on your rules every time. If you aren't consistent with whatever method you choose, you will only confuse your children, and they will have a hard time being successful.
This means you and your husband have to be on the same page. You have to agree on a parenting style and stick to it. This is not to say you can never change. But once you have determined what works, be consistent in how you follow through on rules and consequences...and do it together. Do not undermine each other. Talk together, plan and agree about your goals, and then put your plan into action.
When changes need to be made, discuss them together, and then WARN the children that you are about to make a change. Tell them why. Get them on board with what you are trying to do. Have them make suggestions. Their "buy-in" will help your whole family in the long run.
Then, when everyone is on the same page, start your new or revised method, making sure to be consistent. Children can sense weakness in your resolve, and being children, they will try to use that to their advantage, so be strong. Believe enough in what you are doing that you want to follow through. Sometimes I have to pray for strength to do this....and it's interesting that it always works. Every time.
Consistency and love. Those are the keys to success. The parenting method is up to you.